Monday, July 12, 2004

The First Step

Here in New Jersey the Domestic Partners Bill became law today.

It’s not really much, but it does permit non-married couples who reside together the chance to share health benefits (should one of the company’s of any said partner’s provide this option), and file a joint tax return as well as make medical decisions should one of the partners become ill.

Like I said, it’s not much, but it’s a start.

Whatshisname and I have been cohabiting for about eight years now, so we have decided to register. We have an appointment at the municipal building on July 20th at nine in the morning to sign some papers and become “Domestic Partners”.

I told some of my friends at work about this, and even asked a straight friend of mine to be our witness (as required by law, a witness must be present).

Everyone is being supportive and asking about Honeymoons and what the usher’s will be wearing (everyone is a comedian).

Of course the reality is, there will be no ceremony and the entire thing will have as much pomp and circumstance as getting a dog license. That said, I am doing this, we are doing this, to make a statement, to be counted, to take that first step towards some type of equality.

Like I said, it’s not much, but it’s a start.

3 comments:

snicks said...

CONGRATULATIONS, PAX and whatsisname (i hope i spelled his name right). so, where are you registered? (sorry i couldn't help it);) seriously, i'm really glad for you and your partner. it may not seem like much, but it's a small step for pax, a giant leap for gaykind. :)

Anonymous said...

sniggles, darling, the name is spelled Q-U-A-S-I-M-O-D-O....and have you checked the walmart bridal registry???

Zelda Parker said...

Dear Pax,
Stand up and be counted! Good for you.
On a selfish note,I guess that I am a little dissapointed that I don't get to be a bridsemaid. There'll be no bachelor party, no pomp and circumstance. But there should be. This is a momentous occasion. The Rabbi Shenkelman and I have had some serious discussions about this. Oops, we are comedians we can't be serious. What I am serious about is that you both are happy together. As the Beatles said; "All you need is love."
Love ya,
Zelda